Decline an invitation politely
IntroducedYou cannot go today
- you你to go去(yes/no ?)吗? Nǐ qù ma? — Are you going?
- I / me我not不to go去。 Wǒ bú qù. — I am not going. to go去 qù means go; not不 negates it here.
Put not不 before the action
- For this simple pattern, use person + not不 + verb: I / me我not不to go去. Before the fourth-tone to go去, not不 is pronounced bú.
- A natural short answer to you你to go去(yes/no ?)吗? is to go去 or 不去. Repeating the verb is useful; you do not have to use to be / is是 for every yes/no reply.
Complete “I am not going”: 我____去。
我不去 is person + 不 + verb.
You will go. Give a short positive reply to 你去吗?
Repeating 去 confirms the action.
Soften the refusal
- to feel embarrassed不好意思,I / me我not不to go去。 Bù hǎoyìsi, wǒ bú qù. — Sorry, I’m not going.
- Learn to feel embarrassed不好意思 as a whole courtesy phrase. Add to thank谢谢 if you want to acknowledge the invitation.
A: you你to go去(yes/no ?)吗? B: to feel embarrassed不好意思,I / me我not不to go去。to thank谢谢。 — Are you going? Sorry, I’m not going. Thank you.
Match the phrases.
Use the whole phrase 不好意思 to soften the refusal.
Hear the difference
- Which sentence is negative? Play each one:
- Do not worry about every negative form today. For to have / there is有 yǒu — have, the usual negative is not have / haven't没有 méiyǒu — do not have; a later unit practises it.
not不 and not / haven't没 are not interchangeable. not / haven't没 often denies that an action happened, and not have / haven't没有 can deny having something now. Neither is simply an English tense ending.
What is the reply?
不 before 去 makes the reply negative.
没有 can only refer to the past.
没有 can mean do not have now as well as deny that an action happened.
Reply without reading
- Hear you你to go去(yes/no ?)吗? and give a positive reply, then a polite negative reply. Use to go去 / 不去.
- Later today, recall the refusal phrase without reopening this page. A forgotten word is a cue to review, not a failure.
I / me我not不to go去 declines. to feel embarrassed不好意思 softens it. For a to go去 question, to go去 / 不去 are useful short replies.
Next: ask what and who.
Apologise, say you are not going, then thank the inviter.
The prompt sets the order of these three courtesy actions.